The “All or Nothing” Mindset Is Holding You Back - Here’s How to Fix It
How to Reset After a Setback Without Guilt: The Science of Sustainable Progress
We've all been there -
one skipped workout turns into a week off,
an off-track meal spirals into a full-blown binge,
or a stressful period makes you abandon your routine altogether.
You tell yourself, "I’ve already messed up, so I might as well go all in and start fresh on Monday."
This "All or Nothing" mindset is one of the biggest reasons people struggle to stay consistent. But progress isn’t about being perfect, it’s about how quickly you recover after setbacks.
Here’s how to mentally reset, reframe setbacks, and keep moving forward without guilt - using psychology-backed strategies that actually work.
Why We Feel Like We've “Ruined Everything” (The Science of Setbacks)
1. The “F- It” Effect: How One Slip Turns Into a Spiral
Ever eaten a cookie when you were trying to eat “clean” and thought, “Well, I’ve already messed up, might as well eat the whole pack”? That’s The “F- It” Effect - a cognitive distortion that makes us abandon progress at the first sign of imperfection.
Studies show that when people perceive a goal as “ruined,” they are more likely to engage in further self-sabotage rather than adjusting and continuing forward. (Herman & Polivy, 2005)
✅ How to Avoid It: Shift your mindset from "I failed" to "This was one choice. My next choice can be better."
2. Perfectionism = The Fastest Route to Burnout
Believing you need to be perfect leads to rigid thinking, stress, and exhaustion - making it harder to sustain habits.
🔬 Research shows that perfectionism is linked to higher levels of anxiety, procrastination, and even decreased performance over time. (Flett & Hewitt, 2002)
✅ How to Avoid It: Aim for 80% consistency, not 100%. Your body and progress don’t reset just because of one off day.
3. Decision Fatigue: Why Strict Rules Lead to Failure
Tracking every gram of food, following a rigid workout plan, and setting unrealistic expectations can drain your mental energy.
Psychologists call this Decision Fatigue - the more rules you impose on yourself, the more likely you are to give up when things don’t go perfectly. (Baumeister et al., 1998)
✅ How to Avoid It: Keep your habits simple and flexible so they’re easier to maintain long-term. Over time you can include more structure after the simple/flexible habits become your default choice.
4. Avoid Overcompensating (It Leads to More Burnout)
Many people try to “undo” setbacks with extreme restriction or overtraining - but this leads to even more stress and inconsistency.
🚨 Example:
Bad Approach: Skipped a workout → Do 2x the next day to “make up for it.”
Better Approach: Skipped a workout → Get back to your normal plan as if nothing happened.
5. Learn From Setbacks Instead of Fearing Them
Instead of seeing a setback as a failure, use it as feedback:
🔍 Ask Yourself:
1️⃣ What triggered this setback? (Stress? Lack of planning? Perfectionism?)
2️⃣ What can I adjust to prevent it next time?
3️⃣ What’s the smallest step I can take today to get back on track?
💡 Growth happens when you use challenges as learning opportunities - not reasons to quit.
Want to Break Free From the Cycle of Setbacks?
If you’re tired of the all-or-nothing mindset, self-sabotage, and constantly “starting over”, it’s time to shift your approach.
In my Premium Coaching Program, I don’t just give you a meal plan and workouts - I help you rewire the way you think about food, training, and setbacks. My 24-week mindset coaching is designed to help you build a resilient, sustainable mindset that guarantees results that actually last.
You don’t need more restriction - you need a smarter, science-backed approach to progress.
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Progress Is Built on Adjustments, Not Perfection
One bad day, one missed workout, or one indulgent meal doesn’t erase all your progress.
The people who succeed aren’t perfect - they’re just consistent. They don’t wait for Monday, they don’t punish themselves, and they don’t let small setbacks define them.
✅ The fastest way to reset? Stop overthinking, take one small step, and keep going.
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